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Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Thursday, May 12, 2011

A day in the Life: Why a woman cries

I got this in an email to day and I just had to share it.



"A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?" "Because I'm a woman , " she told him.


"I don't understand , " he said. His Mom just hugged him and said , "And you never will."


Later the little boy asked his father ,"Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"


"All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.


The little boy grew up and became a man , still wondering why women cry...


Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone , he asked , "God , why do women cry so easily?"

Saturday, April 23, 2011

5 Smart Steps to Getting Your Small Business Off The Ground

via forharriet.com



Disenchanted with corporate glass ceilings and inflexible work schedules that make caring for children and aging parents a nightmare, increasingly Black women are starting their own businesses.

Lisa Price started her multimillion dollar company, Carol’s Daughter, literally on her kitchen table. She made organic beauty products at home and then sold them at church flea markets. As her company matured she began selling her products on the Internet and later opened several stores. Today Carol’s Daughter products are available on Home Shopping Network (HSN). Women entrepreneurs can create their own successful businesses by following these five steps:

1) Determine how you will fund your business:

It takes most businesses at least 2 years to make a profit. This means that you’ll need to invest money in your business before you generate any income from it. Remember, while you’re building your business, you’ll still need to pay your usual expenses. (Continue reading here)

Saturday, July 10, 2010

More than meets the eye

Being out of the country for a long time it is easy to be out of touch with the realities of home. Whilst I used to pride myself on being "in the know" of the real issues facing my fellow countryman and where to go to find out what's happening in the country in the last 2 years I've admittedly lost touch. I hope to be able to at least be able to have some awareness of the issues affecting PNG society and at least be able to contribute something and give back.

For a couple of months now I have been receiving a Nasfund email. I'm not sure how I ended up on their mailing list (and I'm a little worried about how I did get on the list) but from the newsletters I have been able to see numerous NGOs and charity organisations that in an ideal world I would love to be active in or contribute in some way-when I say ideal I mean if I had either time or funds to contribute-but I digress.

Given that internet access is still very limited by international standards I was stupidly suprised (I shouldn't have been so ignorant)that a lot of these organisations do have websites-no doubt necessary as a lot of their target audiences will either be in the developed world or the minority in the country who have access to the internet either at work or home.

So here it is, a few PNG/PNG related sites that I didn't know existed:


Another interesting thing I noted in the June 2010 newsletter was the PRIDE OF PNG AWARDS FOR WOMEN 2010. I hope that lots of nominations were made and that women get some shine for their efforts and contributions!
Pride of PNG Awards for Women 2010: “Empowering Women”

Pride of PNG awards for women is a community service initiative by City Pharmacy in recognizing and rewarding simple Papua New Guinean women. This awards program is for the women who are not well-known, they are the simple, ordinary women but contribute immensely to the development of the country through their involvement in various sectors in their community. Women who are volunteers, church leaders, and advocates in major campaigns such as Violence against women, HIV/Aids and gender based issues. Many are single mothers or are in the public servants as teachers or nurses going out of their way to making life better for others. These are everyday Papua New Guinean women who at the end of the day, work for one purpose and that is to make it better for others.

Under the Patronage of His Excellency Grand Chief Sir Paulias Matane, City Pharmacy initiated these awards so there will be an avenue where these women can now have their stories be told, for people to nominate women in this country who they feel deserve the recognition for the work they do.

With the support of Post Courier, the nations leading daily paper, City Pharmacy Limited is the first organization to offer this sort of awarding system to celebrate the lives of many unsung heroes of this nation. It is with pride that there is now a platform of encouragement and a system of empowerment for women as we progress into the future.

For the past 3 years, 6 medals have been awarded annually for the categories of Bravery and Courage, Community Spirit, Environment, Education/Role Model, Young PNG and the Disability.

City Pharmacy has dedicating a decade to these awards and anticipates a clear vision of supporting over 60 women every year. Whether as community workers or as honest long serving public servants in various departments such as health and education, those that volunteer in NGO’s or work with churches. And for the aspiring young Papua New Guineans who prove to promising hope for a better future of this country.

There are 6 categories, includes a replacement category in 2010.
1. Bravery and Courage


4. Environment and
2. Community Spirit


5. Young PNG
3. Care and Compassion (replaces Disability)


6. Education / Role Model

Please nominate an unsung hero today and make them proud that what they are doing is important. The recognition they get breathes new strength and empowerment. It breathes new life.

Nominations forms and brochures are free at all City Pharmacy, Stop n Shop and Hardware Haus branches nationwide and on page 5 of your daily Post Courier or email prideofpng@cpl.com.pg

Please take time to nominate an unsung hero today. Nominations close on July 16, 2010

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Topic of Interest: Irena Sendler

I received this in a forwarded email and I couldnt help but be moved the courage this woman showed under such circumstances. Whilst the email came from a reliable source, I myself had to sure that I wasn't passing on some false claims and to my relief not only did this real life 20th Century heroene acutally exist, she really did save all those children!

The Following is the part of the contents that I received in my email:



The prize doesn't always go to the most deserving

Irena
Sendler

There
recently was a death of a 98 year-old lady named Irena. During
WWII, Irena, got permission to work in the
Warsaw Ghetto, as a Plumbing/Sewer specialist. She had an 'ulterior motive'
... She KNEW what the Nazi's plans were for the Jews, (being
German.) Irena smuggled infants out in the bottom of the tool
box she carried and she carried in the back of her truck a
burlap sack, (for larger kids..) She also had a dog in the
back that she trained to bark when the Nazi soldiers let her
in and out of the ghetto. The soldiers of course wanted
nothing to do with the dog and the barking covered the
kids/infants noises.. During her time of doing this, she
managed to smuggle out and save 2500 kids/infants. She was
caught, and the Nazi's broke both her legs, arms and beat her
severely. Irena kept a record of the names of all the kids she
smuggled out and kept them in a glass jar, buried under a tree
in her back yard. After the war, she tried to locate any
parents that may have survived it and reunited the family.
Most had been gassed. Those kids she helped got placed into
foster family homes or
adopted.

Last
year Irena was up for the Nobel Peace Prize ..... She was not
selected.

More info can be read about here here. There is also a book out about her titled: Mother of the Children of the Holocaust: The Irena Sendler Story and adapted for a Hallmark Movie called The Courageous Heart of Irena Sendler starring Anna Paquin.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Parents attitude towards girls education

This article was spotted on the Post Courier Online. While it highlighted several issues in contemporary PNG society I think it should also be noted that there are also large numbers of strong and intelligent women in the country who are doing very well for themselves in their careers and also in doing what they can to provide and look after their families. The New Age Woman also does well in highlighting the success of PNG women.


By PES WILSON

Culturally, some societies perceive women as a utility asset to undertake all household chores ...

EDUCATION is considered a tribal investment in some parts of Papua New Guinea. The prime objective of an investment is to make a profit. If the investment is not viable in terms of profitability there is no guarantee for its continuity.
The principle of “invest less and gain more” is applied when choosing who goes to school, and in the process, a lot of girls miss out as they are considered to be unprofitable. They are valued at the instant market price. Many factors and cultural actors play certain decisive roles in denying girls’ the right to education.

Lack of role models

One reason why girls miss out on education is because there are not many female role models. Professional jobs such as doctors, teachers and so on are all male-occupied that people loose interest in the capacity of women getting a job. This leads to the wrong investment picture that females reflect.
In a patrilineal society, education has been meddled with the existing culture in undermining the realisation of females’ potentials. Most decisions in the cultural arena regarding social, religious and political matters are solely left to the men to make. A woman’s worth is measured by the number of pigs she can raise and the number of children she bears. Therefore, females are barred from going to schools.
This creates inequality in the choices made by the parents as to who should go to school and why. This is against the Universal Basic Education principle which proclaims ‘education for all’ where every person regardless of culture, sex, religion and race has rights to an education.

High bride price and low intellectual capabilities

Girls are a source of instant wealth, therefore, are retained at home for bride price. Research confirms that parents value most of their young girls like gold, coffee and other commodities to be traded at the immediate market value. They are only few and scarce that their value has soared recently. This is even worse around Ialibu area and some parts of Central Province. Some young girls can cost around K20 000.
Women are used as the medium to achieve human prosperity. They facilitate for the channelling of wealth like pigs, shell money, pearls, food, modern money and other goods from one person or tribe to another. Poor families with many girls have the fate of becoming rich one day from the wealth that the girl would acquire through bride price payment. Thus, girls are reserved for marriage by their siblings.
Some parents question the females’ intellectual capabilities and say they will not perform as well as the male students. They say that males are naturally intelligent and can solicit solutions for academic problems quite easily than females. In the cultural arena, opinions and advice from women are not entertained by men in all forms of decision making. All decisions are based entirely on the men’s instincts as to what they think is right. Women are merely seen as trailers or followers.

Investment in girls’ education lost to husbands at marriage

Some parents say that their investment in their girls’ education will be lost to the girl’s husband at marriage. In the parochial cultural system, most parents’ fear that their resources spent on their daughter’s education will be shifted to the husband at marriage as she will be subject to the husband. The woman is equivalent to any asset the man may have, with no human value. Her value and worth is measured by the number of pigs she rears and the number of children she bears. There is no guarantee for her to go back and share the benefits of her education with her parents. Therefore, parents restrict their girls from attending school as their investment will be wasted. Moreover, parents do all the arrangements for their daughters’ marriage and this could happen while the girl is still at school. They can withdraw their daughter from school at any time, sometimes, without her knowledge. Whether or not the girl is doing well academically, she has to comply as it is embedded in the cultural and tribal jurisdictions and she will be coerced to marry.

Girls, as pillars of local economy


Girls are the backbone of the local economy. Therefore, parents retain them at home. Culturally, some societies perceive women as a utility asset to undertake all household chores. They fear that educated women will not listen to the dictates of men. They view education as an instrument that alienates women from their environment and makes them less submissive to the dictates of men.
The continuation of men holding high positions in the traditional hierarchy is fading away as monetary value and those who work for money become more important because they gain respect in the society, irrespective of whether they are men or women. Men’s continuation of dominance in the society is facing a new threat by educated girls. Girls must be stopped from going to school and the existing cultural phenomena are potentially capable of barring girls from going to schools.

Distance and tribal fights

Parents fear for their girls’ safety and stop them from walking long distances to schools when there is a tribal fight. Most tribal fights are caused by land disputes, rape and payback killings and are fought on all frontiers without any truce to limit and control the scope of fighting. In such conditions, girls become vulnerable to being abused and injured when walking long distances to schools as some of the schools are situated in enemy territory. Walking through valleys, climbing gorges and mountains, crossing fast flowing rivers or walking along bush tracks to reach their schools places them at the mercy of enemy clans. The only alternative is to leave school because their continued safety is not guaranteed.
There is dire need for awareness to be carried out on the importance of equality and participation in education. Various stakeholders must fund a continuous intensive awareness program until people are fully aware on what to do to eradicate under-representation of girls in schools. Moreover, the educated elites must inform their parents not to stop girls from going to school. Parents must be told that girls are not commodities to be traded as currently, this is what is happening. Faith-based organisations should be supported to carry out awareness through their services and activities so that their congregations are informed of the disadvantages of denying girls their rights to education.
Finally, it is everyone’s responsibility to carry out awareness by asking, pleading and informing parents to send their girls to school.


Pes Wilson is a cadet researcher in the education studies division at the National Research Institute
SOURCE: Post Courier Friday 31/07/09

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Women's petition against violence

Since the Women's Petition on Violence was presented to Pariliament on Tuesday women's accounts of abuse and violence in the home has been given a growth in coverage in the Post Courier. I think the media spotlight on this issue has highlighted that there is a growing need to have systems in place to help victims. Maybe the next move should be to set up a help line, support groups and couciling services for victims and design a public awareness campaign to curb domestic violence.

New Zealand in the last few months launched a "Domestic Violence: Its not okay" campaign to combat the growing cases of violence against children and in the home. Apart fromt that there is the global movement of "thursdays in black" which encourages supporters to wear black on Thursday in support of a "world without rape and violence in our community". Student bodies in NZ have also been pushing this campaign although awareness of it's existence seems to be in decline.

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

TIME does Style & Design

I'm on the late,late bus with this issue of Time but I needed to post this up.

The September 16 issue of Times covers Style and Design i.e. what's hot and happening in style (products,trends and looks), who are the movers and whose leading the pack in luxury brands and products and how access to products is changing - the net and the online shopping experience.

Who knew that despite the luxury brands being dominated by men, that women were still the key figures behind how making these brands successful. Enter women like Valerie Hermann (CEO of Yves Saint Laurent), Silvana and Roberta Armani and Wanda Ferragamo.

The issue also looked into the emerging markets of consumer brands in India,China and Russia. A larger part of their populations were now leaning towards being more brand conscious which has driven up the demand for luxury brands.

Maybe I was drawn to the fashion and the products being covered but I think a larger part of me was intrigued at how successful these women were in there roles. Don't sleep on this issue of Time!

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Behind every successful man, is a woman



No woman, no cry is a book that stays true to that saying. It reads like a beautiful love story even though their life was full of struggle (I can hear Talib Kweli's Beautiful Struggle playing in my head).

Written by Rita Marley with Hettie Jones its a revealing biography about her life before meeting Bob and then details here struggles during their time together and after his death. There were the joys of parenthood and the music. Then there was the struggles to survive and earn a living. That doubled with his infidelity would have been overwhelming but she got through it with the support of her friends and family and her faith as a Rastafari.

Through it all she found herself, launched a music career and created an identity that was separate from her husband's. After reading it I don't think I would have been as strong but I guess that's how phenomenal women can be. Always turning something into nothing and keeping things together.

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Phenomenal Woman: Jaking Merimyas


New Age Woman updated their page on the Post Courier and I decided to suss out their new issue. Their "Nivea Lunch-break" feature has to be one of the things I look forward to reading. PNG has so many successful women who often don't have their successes celebrated (in comparison to men in the country).
This month's feature was on Jaking Marimyas. It took me a while to realise that I'd actually gone to school with 3 of her daughters - Hannah, Lucille and their younger sister (who's name escapes me at this point). She is also the younger sister of MP Bart Philemon. Anyways here's the article...

“You can do better,” Jaking Marimyas told herself.
Like most Papua New Guinean women back in 1968 and at the age of 18, education past high school to tertiary institutions was very competitive.
And taking the back seat still hearing the words of her older brother (“It’s girls like this that deserve to be sent to universities…” about a female relative), Mrs Marimyas clenched her fist and made a vow to prove the whole village wrong including her brother.
“After completing Grade 9 at Bumayong High School - due to limited space - I decided to enroll at Balob Teachers College to train to become a teacher.
“I did well passing with a credit beating those Grade 10 students who were in my class,” she reminisced with an accomplished smile.
Upon receiving her certificate for teaching, the college principal approached her consider training to become a lecturer at the college.
“Mr Stolz was the principal then and he offered me a job to be trained as a lecturer after doing two years of my teaching in the field,” she said.
It was in 1973 when Mrs Marimyas bunked up with three other Australian women lecturers to study to become an associate lecturer.
The idea then was for her to learn the ways of the expatriates and to raise her personal and professional standard.
“I had a professional mentor, Ms Pitman was her name but when at home, it was Rosemary Gerlken, one of the three expatriate women, I was living with,” she said.
Mrs Marimyas said they had a system in place for house keeping, where one person took charge of cooking for a week.
“I was scared at first to cook the women our traditional dishes so I would stand behind the ladies while they were cooking and watch. Picking up how they did their cooking, I would do the same including my favourite, cucumber and cheese sandwich.”
“Then one time I took up the courage to do some traditional dishes cooking chicken and pumpkin leaves with coconut. To my surprise the pots were all clean swept,” she remembered smiling.
Mrs Marimyas like most Papua New Guineans during those days was always compared with others. She felt uncomfortable at times when she was in the village.
“I knew they were preparing us for jobs. But they never taught us how to fit back into our traditional societies; for me it was something I had to teach myself.”
She furthered her knowledge of the world when she was sent to Brisbane for a week’s YWCA conference. Then in 1974, she went to Canberra for 10 months to complete her diploma in tertiary teaching. It was here that she met her husband Gabriel Marimyas and got married the following year in July. Both had their first daughter Alma in 1978 and Noela the following year.
Mrs Marimyas continued to have offers to further her studies overseas but declined.
“My priority was my family and my children so I rejected all these offers,” she said.
But Ms Philemon even after having six children still never gave up the vow she made when she was in Grade 9. She enrolled at UPNG in 1991 to complete her matriculation studies and then to completed her first degree.
“The Bachelor in Education was an In-service, split Campus program for Teacher’s College Lectures coordinated by UPNG and Queensland University of Technology.
“During my study at UPNG, I met the same female relative my brother had been talking about. I had fulfilled the vow, accomplished it. But a little voice inside me told me I could do more,” she said.
And she did just that by achieving another degree, a Master of Learning Innovation.
Mrs Marimyas is currently the Assistant Secretary for the Curriculum Development and Assistant Division with the Department of Education.
She is now 57 and has traveled to the United States, Canada, England, Japan, Thailand and number of Pacific Island countries.
“But in life my greatest achievement is my family including my twin grandsons,” she said.
So what is your secret?” I asked and she said, “Never show people that you are a woman by putting up barriers, see yourself as a partner doing that work…. never show that you know better than him; ideas are good, never challenge, acknowledge their strength and work with them.”


Source: New Age Woman